A self defeating attitude can be hard to shake yet you need to get rid of it or it will completely inactivate you. These feelings are not natural, but are programmed into you by others. They are not truth - just an image that has been ingrained. I have a few tips for getting rid of them, if that will help.
First you must learn to visualize - you need to SEE what it is you want.
Go back to a niche you chose before that you really like but stopped working on because of the negative feelings.
Sit with your eyes closed and SEE the website as finished. See yourself writing in your blog and smiling. See your email filling up with customer responses and with paypal notices. Do this several times a day and whenever doubt seeps in.
Affirmation - you must also continue to affirm that you can do this. When you get up in the morning, and whenever you feel doubt - just tell yourself "It's a good day to create my life" - and "building my business is interesting and easy".
Clearing -- Sit down and make a list of every reason you can think of that making your own business might not work. Then go over the list one item at a time. Does what you have written FEEL like it applies to you? If it does - stop and think of why. Did a teacher tell you that you couldn't do something? Did your parents install the idea that you have to have a 9 - 5 job to make money? Did someone tell you that you aren't smart enough? Whatever you remember that someone said or did to you to shake your confidence - remove it. Tell yourself out loud - and that's important - out loud......that you are sorry for that person and hold nothing against them. They didn't mean to hurt you and did only because they have been fooled about their own ability. Let your own mind know that they put limits on you because they thought it would help you and just didn't understand they were wrong. Then re-affirm to yourself that you are over that feeling, it's in the past. You are ready to move ahead.
When you are done with the list - tear it up. You are done with it. The programming is no longer in effect in your mind - you know better now and forgive everyone for the harm they did - you have closure.
Now go build your business. Re-affirm to yourself several times a day that you are having fun and learning - that you are getting what you want. If you continue to slide back into the negativity, do the clearing again.
It took a lifetime to build that negativity, so it may not go away overnight. You may have to work on it a bit. Every time that you think you can't do it, though - stop and tell yourself how silly it is to think that. You are every bit as smart as many who have made it very big. They made it because they kept working no matter who told them what. And that is what YOU have to do -- just keep working and know that if you continue, you will complete your goal.
What's the worst that can happen? What if you don't make the money you want? You will learn how to build and learn what you did wrong so you can correct it. It's no different than a project that you do for a hobby - if you are interested, you will try, then correct what didn't go right. There are lots of people you have as a resource here that can help you find the right way to do something if you make a mistake. Lots of teachers.
Now.......go grab that old niche that you dropped just because you got haunted and get it done. Time's a wastin'.
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